Some church whine

Image via The Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Waynesboro, Virginia

I hate to go to church by myself.  I've been attending a UU church for just over a year now, and my attendance has been pretty regular.  I help out with a Sunday school program called "Social Justice Hour" every other week, and I go to the pagan group meetings almost every month.  I volunteered to make the coffee and set out the snacks twice for coffee hour.  I was asked to lead the pagan group next year and I plan to do so. 

I've found the church to be welcoming and supportive, but I still hate to go by myself.  I have made some casual friends via the pagan group, but they aren't really people I go to church with.  I can plop down and sit next to them, sure.  But I still feel lonely at church.  I thought that this would go away in time, but I haven't found that to be the case yet.  I've tried inviting friends, but nothing really stuck.  I've skipped several Sundays because I just didn't want to do it alone.

My spouse is absolutely not interested in going to church.  I extend halfhearted invitations every couple months, but I know that he will never accept.  He considers himself Christian, but he is not a church person, and I don't think anything will change that, except maybe having kids (which we don't plan to do.)  It makes me sad sometimes, but it's just not his thing.

I can hear the chorus of "you need to do things by yourself!" and I can assure you that I do plenty of stuff on my own.  I am much more social than my spouse, and I go to a lot of events alone or with a friend.  I just don't like going to church alone.


I might just skip again today.